Extramarital Affair
Many suspicious spouses now catch onto their partner's secret affairs by checking cell phones and email. Now I ask you ... why would you want to stay with a spouse who cheats? Is that their pattern and you have learned to live with it? Many wives complain about the sexual addictions of their husband, satisfied outside the home. What about married partners who do the 'gay thing' outside the home and that is the affair in question. Issues and Drama!
There are many ways ending an extramarital affair can play out...
- Both lovers agree that it is best to end the relationship
- One lover wants out, but the other continues to pursue the relationship
- One lover leaves and the other harasses the partner
The lover who had put the most energy into the affair in the past, decides to move on, and much to their surprise, discovers that their partner is now working hard at keeping the affair alive
Co-dependent lovers have great difficulty letting go, as theirs is also a marriage. They may be coworkers or business partners. Many lovers discover that something missing when the married lover is gone, now dealing with great pain and turmoil. Once the healing process has begun, the lover who wants to end the affair, will move on sooner or later. In the grand scheme of things, one has to wonder ....
Is a relationship with two people at the same time different than having more than one spouse at a time?
Theories
There are four thoughts as to why men and women cheat on their mates. Since affiars continue to happen, we continue to try to understand why.
Genetic: Occurs in every time and in every culture (a stone age mindset living in a modern world). Otherwise, since it is woven into the fabric of who we are, all of us are "tempted," although, not everyone gives in to infidelity because we also have moral values and wills.
Emotional: People who feel unfulfilled in their marriages will seek outside relationships to fill emotional gaps that cannot be responded to in any other way. There is a fine line here between those who truly go without basic emotional needs being met by their partners and those who have an unrealistic view of relationships as they search for the perfect mate--the "Walk on the Water" syndrome. This type of an affair is the most difficult to overcome because it is actually based on two people bonding together in so many more ways than just having sex together.
