Signs of a Cheating Spouse

The Cheating Spouse: Some of these are "tongue in cheek" while others are tell tale cheating spouse signs that commonly appear when your cheating spouse is having an extramarital affair.

Top 10 Cheating Signs.

  1. Infidelity: You find birth-control pills in the cheating spouse's medicine cabinet, and you've had a vasectomy.
  2. Mutual friends start acting strangely toward your cheating spouse. (They either know about the cheating spouse (cheating husband) or have been told stories about what a horrible spouse you are.)
  3. Your cheating spouse stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.
  4. Sets up a "cheating spouse" e-mail account and doesn't tell you about it.
  5. The cheating spouse leaves the house in the morning smelling like Irish Spring and returns in the evening smelling like Safeguard. Emotional infidelity is very painful.
  6. Cheating spouse joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program.
  7. Cheating spouse buys a cell phone for cheating and doesn't let you know.
  8. Your cheating spouse, who's cheating, sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to his office.
  9. He carries condoms, and you are on the pill. A good sign of a cheating spouse.
  10. Cheating spouse begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.

Some more signs of a cheating spouse.

  1. When they no longer want sex or makes excuses to not have sex.
  2. When they will not allow you access to their computer or they suddenly shut down the computer when you walk into the room. They may password protect their laptop or computer to keep out suspicious eyes. Or they stay up to "work" or "play a game" on the computer after you go to bed. Excessive internet usage, especially late at night, is a red flag.
  3. When they begin to put distance between you or show a lack of interest in what has been the routine with few, if any, excuses for the change in their behavior.
  4. When they suddenly have to work late and have all kinds of new obligations that take them away from home repeatedly or for long periods of time. Or. . . they tell you they are working longer hours and discontinue allowing you to view their paycheck or pay stubs.
  5. If your loved one works with people, such as at a bar or restaurant especially as a waitress or bartender they might suddenly tell you not to visit them at work. This usually means they are hiding something at their workplace whether it be with a co-worker or a regular customer such as at a bar.
  6. When they suddenly need a cell phone or pager and you are discouraged from ever looking at it or using it. They also may make certain their cell phone or pager cannot be answered by you by hiding it or taking it with them wherever they go. They are secretive about their cell phone or pager bill and pay it themselves when you have always paid the bill in the past.
  7. When they arrive home smelling faintly of perfume/cologne or another person's body.
  8. When they arrive home and head straight into the shower or bath.
  9. When they have lipstick or strange hairs on their clothing or in the car. Finding strange phone numbers, receipts or condoms can also be clues.
  10. When they suddenly begin to treat you extremely nice; more so than usual.
  11. When they begin to make "kinky" requests or suggest wildly erotic play during sex including things you have never done before. They may also show an increased interest in sex or sexual things, including porn.
  12. When they talk to you they treat you abusively or with disdain, disrespect or excessive sarcasm. They may also demonstrate an unexplained aloofness or indifference in the relationship. Or. . . they may begin to find fault in everything you do in an attempt to justify their affair.
  13. Her: When she gets spiffed up and dresses provocative to "go grocery shopping" or to "get her hair done." She may also show up with a sudden change of hair style. Him: When he showers, shaves (cologne, deodorant, etc.) and dresses up more than usual to "go out with his buddies" or to "go fishing."
  14. When they break their established routine at work and home for no apparent or logical reason.
  15. When they become suddenly forgetful and you have to tell him/her everything several times; their thoughts are obviously elsewhere.